“Be the Doctor Your Mom Wants You to Marry”.

It’s said one woman in Brooklyn, after she saw this quote on someone’s shirt, went on and became a doctor.

How surprising it is, it makes one feel, that a few words should have such power!

And how unsurprising it is, when you think about it, that there are still in this very modern world few women that do and excert and achieve mighty things on a bigger stage at a higher level.

Of course it makes a woman feel flattered and pleased, and admittedly it is a good and natural and honest feeling, at being looked at in a way a man would look at the one he adores and holds dear.

There is a quickening of blood, a flutter in the heart and a flush in the face. One feels warm and gentle, like basking in the ray of a brilliant sun on a winter afternoon. One feels shone on, like a light has suddenly been turned on and makes everything in life looks cheerfull. And one feels, oh these must be counted as precious jewels in one’s memory, like dancing and singing and prasing life!

In a word, one feels happy!

How many women must have slipped and lay under these feelings throughout history! The fortunate, leading a life of sacrifice and anonymous, became the blurred faced wife behind husbands and sons. The unfortunate, well, the unfortunate probably lived the same kind of life without there being a light, a warmth and gentleness, a sun in her self-effacing life.

What is it makes a girl feel instinctively at once maternal and humble as a servant towards such a man?

女, the Chinese dictionary tells me, pictogram, Oracle: the figure of a kneeling human with hands holding together, original meaning, female, woman as opposed to “male”.

女，妇人也, the ancient dictionary goes on to explain. And I went on to look up what exactly is a “妇人”, woman.

妇, compound ideographs, Oracle: on the left side is “broom” and on the right side is “female”, the female holding a broom, it means to sprinkle and sweep, original meaning: married woman.

女也不爽，士贰其行, the dictionary now gives me examples of 女 used through out the history of literature, rough translated, the woman (wife) has no fault, yet the man (husband) doubles (changes) his behavior. (no longer loving).

一女不织，或受之寒, (if there were) one woman does not weave, there would be someone suffers cold. [Preceded by 一夫不耕，或受之饥，(if there were) one man does not plow, there would be someone suffers hunger].

窈窕淑女，君子好逑, graceful maiden, a gentleman’s good life companion.

So the female, she is the decorous kneeling figure, she is the sweeping housewife with a broom, she is the wife with no fault yet the husband has wronged her, she is the stay-in-home weaver, she is the genleman’s life companion.

What she is not, is 男, man, and the dictionary says thus about male: the power in the field (to plow), the one who works, strives and achieves.

男有分，女有归 it says, each man has different occupations, each woman has her husband to rely on.

The west on this aspect shares the same mind: ‘woman’ comes from the word wife: wife, in a lingusitic sense, is seen as a woman’s sole role. Whereas ‘man’ comes from ‘mankind, human being, person, to think (!)’, his role certainly is not limited to ‘husband’.

“But I would rather be happy! Isn’t happiness the most important thing?” She asks me. “Why all these scholastic dead knowledge? You make a simple thing so complicated!”

Yes. It’s certainly much better to be happy than to be wise. Then it is the wise woman who are oftener happier. There is happiness in the knowing of oneself, there is happiness in the pursuing of knowledge.

The fluttering feelings are all very well and precious, and better to be savored and treasured up deep in the heart for its purity, the head, however is to be clear and sober. In a long run, it’s much better to be the doctor yourself than worshipping and serving a doctor. For, if this doctor walks away, for after all such things happen in this world, you would not be left destitute, and if the doctor stays, for happy companionships, happy marriages do exist too in this world, you would deal with him on an equal ground, which is the foundation of any healthy relationship, and not end up being, or at least that would not be your main role, the sweeping wife with a broom.